Nick and Julie's story
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“Nick and Julie spent four years making happy memories for the boys. Their sense of humour got everyone through the difficult times, and eased the pain of the ‘hard to ask’ questions. Their openness, strength and courage was, and is, inspiring. Nick’s time at LOROS was pretty riotous at times….we did a lot of laughing! It was a precious time and we are all grateful for the love and respect shown to Nick, particularly in those difficult last few days.”
- Cathy, Nick and Julie’s close friend
In 2014, my husband Nick was diagnosed with bowel cancer, and secondary lung cancer. He was just 43 years old.
It started back in October 2013, when Nick complained of a sore back. He visited the GP, and straight away he said that he could feel something in Nick’s tummy. From there he was sent for tests and scans, and on Valentine’s Day 2014 his diagnosis was confirmed.
Our boys, Ryan and Ellis, were only six and two at the time. We didn’t go into too much detail with them, but they did know that Daddy was poorly. After Nick’s treatment, we always tried to have lots of fun with the boys, to make up for those difficult weeks.
Nick was such a funny man, always messing around, and making jokes. I remember all the nurses loved him and his humour, even when he was really poorly in LOROS he was still cheeky.
After four long years, in January 2018, Nick was admitted to LOROS. After a few days, the doctor said that he needed to stay in for a little longer, and then it was longer still. Sadly, Nick died at the Hospice shortly after, aged just 47.
I’ll always remember our time at LOROS, it was a difficult time, but it would have been much harder if we were at home. We both sighed a sigh of relief when Nick was admitted to the Ward. After months of being uncomfortable and in pain, he was finally at peace. We felt safe there, and well looked after. All the staff were lovely, so welcoming, from the doctors and nurses, to the catering team and the volunteers. It’s such a happy place. I was even able to stay overnight with Nick towards the end, which I’m so glad I was able to do. Those two weeks were really hard on the boys, but we were able to call them every evening to say goodnight, which meant the world to us all.
We’d got to know some of the team at LOROS, from Home Visiting and Day Therapy, so when Nick was admitted, a few familiar faces kindly visited us, which was lovely. Angela from Complementary Therapy came to give Nick reflexology, and Melanie, our Community Palliative Care Nurse who helped us at home, came to say hello too.
Before Nick became really poorly, he wrote messages for the boys. He said that if ever they felt down and needed a ‘pick me up’, they should read Dad’s words:
“This is what I would have said to you if I was still here. You are a wonderful, caring, thoughtful young man, such an amazing boy. We all know you are a really clever boy, and you know that too. Please put the effort in, and if you do, you will be able to do whatever you want to do. You’re brilliant, keep being brilliant. Please carry on being you. I love you. Dad.”
My biggest regret was not taking the boys to see Nick at LOROS to say goodbye, but I felt at the time it was the best thing to do. I wanted the boys to remember their Daddy before this stage of his journey, and a small part of me even thought that he just might come home.
I know just how important LOROS is, because they cared for my Dad, Grandad and Auntie Val too. They are so much more than just end of life care; they offer counselling, bereavement support, complementary therapy and much more. I honestly don’t know what we would have done without them.
As a family we are huge LOROS supporters. Nick’s parents, Derrick and Yvonne, want to help me raise as much money as we possibly can for LOROS, in Nick’s memory. We want to do him and his boys proud!"
By playing the Spring into Summer Raffle, you’ll be helping patients like Nick and his family. Julie said: “As a family we have had so much support from LOROS over the years, so I can honestly say, LOROS is such an important and special place, I don’t know what we would have done without them.”
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